I remember when I first published my book From Aspiration to Fulfillment and was carried in Indigo Chapters stores across Canada. I decided to do a mini book signing tour across local stores in order to introduce my book to more readers.
Now the thing about book signing especially for local authors is that in order to have a successful book signing, it’s important to actively approach shoppers and introduce yourself and your book to them. This was something that intimidated me, because although many people see me as outgoing, I'm a bit shy with strangers. So, having to go up to complete strangers created a bit of anxiety for me.
The times when people were at my table chatting was great. But then as normally happens, the crowd will leave and then you find yourself sitting alone at the table. At that point, I knew it was time to get off my table and walk around…. But then the voice came up. ‘You’re going to be a bother to them? It’s not like you’re a well-known author. Whatever Uchechi!’
I knew I had to move past the fear.
Something that helped me was to think of an alter ego. I called her Veronique Fierce. Yes, my take on Beyonce’s Sasha Fierce. I’ve always thought that name evoked a kind of sexy confidence, so I went with it.
When I took on that identity, all of a sudden I felt more confident. I was no longer ‘shy Uchechi’, I was Veronique Fierce!’ I stood up taller and it gave me the confidence to get my butt off my chair and walk around and introduced myself to shoppers.
Yes, some said no and dismissed me, but many said yes, came by and I was able to get my book in the hands of those that may not have otherwise known of it. This is the power of what an alter ego can do for you.
Another great strategy when dealing with imposter syndrome is to focus on service. Take your attention off you and your ability to deliver. A great quote my mentor shared with my group was this: "STOP asking how good you are, and start asking WHAT DOES THE WORLD NEED".
If you have something that can help others, it’s your obligation to get out there and share it. Yes, not everyone will resonate with you, but when you put yourself out there, you give those that will an opportunity to connect with you.
When you get out of your head and into your heart and focus on those you wish to serve, you bring energy to the love you have for your work and those you serve, and take energy away from your doubts and fears.
Remember, we all go through this in some degree or another. Even the late legendary icon Maya Angelou was quoted to say after writing each of her books 'Uh oh, they're going to find out now. I've run a game on everybody, and they're going to find me out.' Can you believe this?!?! I mean she's arguably the best poet and author of our time! Can you imagine the beauty, inspiration, healing and lessons the world would've been deprived of, had she focused her insecurity than on service?
Don’t let the world miss out on the impact and service YOU have to make, because of your doubts and fears. The world needs you to show up for your goals and dreams!
P.S. I shared even more tools and strategies to move past imposter syndrome inside my Dream Life Designer Membership
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