You decided to play full out. Now get ready for some resistance!Jan 11, 2014
The couple of weeks ending the year, I did a lot of reviewing and planning for 2014. I started the year fresh and clear on my goals that were aligned to my core desired feelings (if you missed last week’s blog on aligning your goals to your core desired feelings, go here and check it out!). After I gained clarity on my goals and felt ready to start my year and feeling great about it, something huge snuck up on me. Yes, that big R word “r-e-s-i-s-t-a-n-c-e!”
I was overcome with a gush of self-doubt, fear, and worry. Doubt about my new program, doubt about my life, and I had a moment of thinking about stopping everything and just play it safe. I had an “is all of this worth it?” moment. Now, anyone who knows me well would be shocked to read these words. But I couldn’t help it. I had a moment of feeling lack and I started comparing myself to others who seem to have achieved far more and the thought of the work needed to achieve the same level of success just felt like too much of a mountain to climb. Add to that feeling disconnected to relationships around me, had me also disconnected to my goals and abilities.
I know at one point or another, this is something we all face. Anytime we start reaching and living fully, we will meet with some kind of resistance. Our egos will start to scream and shout and really it does this in an attempt to keep us safe, safe in our comfort zone and safe from outside criticism and rejection. Other times, things will unexpectedly not go as planned, or a close relationship starts to go sour, we feel stuck and it seems like it’s a sign for us to stop and retreat.
Thankfully, I was finally able to recognize this feeling and really got to work. My first step in working through my resistance was acceptance. I accepted the fact that I was feeling this way and allowed myself time to feel my emotions and let them out. I did not make myself wrong for feeling this way (ok. I admit, I did feel bad for feeling this way initially). I cried, I resisted, and then I accepted the fact that my ego was in the driving seat at this time. Although I accepted my feelings, I also knew deep down this was a temporary thing, and that I would not allow myself to stay in that space for long.
I then released my feelings. I did this by crying and praying for guidance and strength to break free from this. Now, being almost 6 months pregnant I know I am also dealing with serious hormones that just multiples my emotions. I admitted to the feelings I was having, even though only to myself and God/Universe, I admitted to it and asked for the strength to see it differently.
Next I got connected. I remember frantically searching through my iPhone for one of my guided meditations and sat my butt down and meditated. My head may have not been in it when I started, but by the end, my head felt clear and my heart more open. I felt there was an invisible presence beside me; reassuring me and helping me see my strength and self worth.
I then took action. Even though I was still feeling doubt, I made myself take action. I’ve heard someone say action is the best antidote for fear and I absolutely believe that. After having a good cry to release my emotions, and meditation, I got back on my laptop and got to work.
As time went on, the resistance felt lighter and the fearful voice quieted down. I began to feel inspired again and felt my confidence come back up. I then remembered the “whys” of the work that I do and the passion I have for it. This was exactly what I needed to keep going.
In our journey of self-growth and creating the life of our dreams, sh#t will go down. But, we have to see it for what it is. Call it out, admit to it, release it, re-calibrate and take action. It may not be the perfect action, but that action will allow you to quiet your fears and stay on track.
So, have you ever felt a gush of resistance come through? How were you able to push past it? Share your story below. I would love to hear it!
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