Relationships
I Like Myself best when I’m with you
Recently during a group coaching session, I had asked my participants to take on a challenge.
This challenge was inspired by my own sister who wanted to use it as her goal for the week that I had previously asked them to take on. They were to do or say a kind act to a loved one at least once a day.
We were speaking at the time to our partners, but this can and should be done for any person you are in a relationship that you come into contact with on a daily basis. This could be your mother, father, sibling, or your children if you are a single parent.
The foundation of this came from a session we had with Master Life Coach Mark Fournier. He said a single phrase that would forever change the way I interact with my close and special relationships.
He asked the question, what it would be like if those around us “Liked themselves best, when they are with us”.
Now, I don’t know about you, but this question was so powerful. How would I feel if my husband and son liked themselves best in my presence? This lead me to the challenge for us to work to make those around us feel this way.
Another thing Mark spoke about was how those closest to us, see themselves through our eyes.
This led me to ask myself, “What is my husband seeing?” What is my son seeing”? And I instantly realized how often I complained about the little things; laundry is not completely done, and worse yet folded and put away. How he forgot to buy laundry detergent on his grocery shop and now I ran out.
Why in the world would you wear your shoes from the outside into our new home and nice clean carpet! I instantly went back to these little nagging comments that often come up.
When was the last time that I just hugged him and told him how handsome he was? When did I thank him for emptying out the dish washer, or giving our son a bath for a week straight? How was he seeing himself through my eyes?
This led me to re-visit my daily interactions with him. We often, get to a place of comfort with our loved ones and tend to take things for granted. But, I now give you the challenge to go a week or 2 and choose to ignore those small stuff that at the end of the day will never truly matter.
Concentrate on those things that make our loved ones feel empowered and good about themselves, so one day they can say “I like myself best when I am with you”!
Please leave a comment and let me know how you found this challenge and any lessons you can share with our community about it.
With love and gratitude!
Uchechi Ezurike
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